Toxic Family Quotes That Are So True to Help You Deal

Dealing with toxic family situations can be an emotional burden, so we have put together a list of toxic family quotes to help you share your feelings. And if you’re looking for fake family sayings, we also have you covered.

Now go ahead and browse through to find your favorite.

Toxic Family Quotes

“When faced with choosing between attributing their pain to “being crazy” and having had abusive parents, clients will choose “crazy” most of the time.”— Lisa Ferentz

“Do not be waylaid by a toxic family Whatsapp group. You fought hard to emerge as your own person in real life. Do not succumb to this new medium that replicates all the sad, toxic hierarchies of broken families. Walkout. Do it now.” – Itayi Garande

“Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA.” – Temi Ade

“Avoid negative people, for they are the greatest destroyers of self-confidence and self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you!” –Auliq Ice

“All the men in my family were bearded and most of the women.” –C. Fields

“Let negative people live their negative lives with their negative minds.”― Moosa Rahat

“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.” –George Bernard Shaw

“All my life you’ve done nothing but look at me with disregard. As if I was a stranger who came into your house and pooped on your carpet.”— Egle Nutautaite

“Your whole being is involved in taking care of someone else, worrying about what they think of you, how they treat you, how you can make them treat you better. Right now, everyone in the world seems to think that they are codependent and that they come from dysfunctional families. They call it codependency. I call it the human condition.” –Cynthia Heimel

“No one forces a person to be negative, and no one forces anyone to be positive. The choice is up to an individual and that person alone.” — Byron Pulsifer

“Insanity is hereditary; you get it from your children.” –Sam Levenson

“Like all the best families, we have our share of eccentricities, of impetuous and wayward youngsters and of family disagreements.” – Queen Elizabeth II

“The tradition of passing trauma from generation to generation like a family heirloom stops with you its final inheritor determined to lay it to rest.”— Zara Bas

“People talk about dysfunctional families; I’ve never seen any other kind.” – Sue Grafton

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” –Anne Lamott

“You don’t let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.” – Charles Orlando

“If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.” — Michael Jordan

“Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.” – Sidney Albury

“We arrive and depart this life alone. Every moment in-between is a unique opportunity to experience as much love and belonging as we can possibly muster. Instead we obsess over petty differences and turn our backs on those we are supposed to love.”— Anthon St. Maarten

“What the toxic family unit has lost sight of is the positive traits of the innocent person who was manipulated into being the scapegoat. The scapegoat can feel the acute injustice that leaves a psychological scar. Although nobody would willingly choose to be a scapegoat, this person has countless wonderful strengths, characteristics, and accomplishments.”— Dana Arcuri

“The fear of abandonment forced me to comply as a child, but I’m not forced to comply anymore. The key people in my life did reject me for telling the truth about my abuse, but I’m not alone. Even if the consequence for telling the truth is rejection from everyone I know, that’s not the same death threat that it was when I was a child. I’m a self-sufficient adult and abandonment no longer means the end of my life.”— Christina Enevoldsen

“Sometimes it’s better to end something & try to start something new than imprison yourself in hoping for the impossible.” – Karen Salmansohn

“Handling toxic people is not an art; they will be the victim of their own toxicity” ―S. Jagadeesh Kumar

“See, I think there are roads that lead us to each other. But in my family, there were no roads – just underground tunnels. I think we all got lost in those underground tunnels. No, not lost. We just lived there.” — Benjamin Alire Sáenz

“We all come from dysfunctional families, and these days I guess that’s pretty normal.” –Carnie Wilson

“Fear of breaking family loyalty is one of the greatest stumbling blockages to recovery. Yet, until we admit certain things we would rather excuse or deny, we cannot truly begin to put the past in the past and leave it there once and for all. Unless we do that, we cannot even begin to think of having a future that is fully ours, untethered to the past, and we will be destined to repeat it.”— Ronald Allen Schulz

“Family too can be cut off if it proves to be too toxic to be around.” –Samuel Zulu

“I come from a dysfunctional family, so my view of parents and parenting used to be highly mixed.” – Tamora Pierce

“No matter how much you love the person, you cannot change them. You may influence them, but at the end of the day, they must decide for themselves.” — Robert E. Baines Jr.

“The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.” –David W. Earle

“A toxic mother talks but never listens, and she gives advice but never takes any.” – Sherrie Campbell

“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” ― John Mark Green

“Remember…Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.” —Ziad K. Abdelnour

“Dysfunctional families have sired a number of pretty good actors.” –Gene Hackman

“My encouragement: delete the energy vampires from your life, clean out all complexity, build a team around you that frees you to fly, remove anything toxic, and cherish simplicity. Because that’s where genius lives.” — Robin S. Sharma

“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.” — Robert Tew

“In my family, as in all dysfunctional families, instead of parents who act as strong and nurturing role models for their children, you get these needy people who use their children. I was the kid who tried to take on the marriage.” – John Bradshaw

“Along with the trust issues, one of the hardest parts to deal with is the feeling of not being believed or supported, especially by your own grandparents and extended family.”— Erin Merryn

“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

“Family is supposed to be our safe haven, but sometimes it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.” — Iyanla Vanzant

“It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.” – Jonathan Schiller

“The current relationship between companies and the workforce is like marrying into a dysfunctional family. Only you don’t get to escape when the holiday meal is over.” – Bill Jensen

“The happy family is a myth for many.” — Carolyn Spring

“The path to freedom is illuminated by the bridges you have burned, adorned by the ties you have cut, and cleared by the drama you have left behind. Let go. Be free.” — Steve Maraboli

“Toxic family members will see expressions of forgiveness as weaknesses to exploit. Don’t give in to their tactics this way. If you need to forgive them for your own healing, then do it, but keep it to yourself.”— Sherrie Campbell

“Weeding out the harmful influences should become the norm, not the exception.” ― Carlos Wallace

“When we are raised in toxic families, we often go through a time period, and for some of us, a lifetime of repeating the toxic patterns we were raised in with other people in our lives. We do this until we decide we’ve had enough pain and choose to genuinely examine our patterns and stop the craziness for good.”— Sherrie Campbell

“We don’t get to choose our family, but we can choose our friends. With courage, we can weed out narcissistic people. We can focus on those who do appreciate us, love us, and treat us with respect.” ―Dana Arcuri

“Families and their problems go on and on, and they aren’t solved; they’re dealt with.” – Roger Ebert

“It’s okay to cut ties with toxic friends and family you’ve got to prioritize your own well-being.” — Brenden Dilley

“Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as family.”— Steve Maraboli

“You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life.” – Tara Westover

“When people pressure you to engage in negative decisions and actions, look at them boldly in the eyes and dare them to do good.” ― Edmond Mbiaka

“A toxic family is even worse than a toxic relationship.” – Rohan Chouhan

“Family is where you’re meant to be most free, don’t let blood chain you down.” — Michelle Meleen

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.” — Joel Osteen

“Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache.” – Lyanla Vansant

“Wherever there is a major deficit in parental love, the child will—in all likelihood—respond to the deficit by assuming itself to be the cause of the deficit, thereby developing an unrealistically negative self-image.” — Sherrie Campbell

“Every day, you must unlearn the ways that hold you back. You must rid yourself of negativity, so you can learn to fly.” — Leon Brown

“This toxic pattern within the broken family system will continue from one generation to the next, until one brave survivor finally ends the cycle of abuse. The dysfunction, bullying, and abuse didn’t start with you, but it most certainly can end with you.”— Dana Arcuri

“Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t, or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.” — Lavon Fr

“When you notice someone does something toxic the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it.” –Shahida Arabi

“Another thing I learned in therapy?” Angie said. “The kids in dysfunctional families who act out and rebel are the ones who are the healthiest mentally. They’re the ones who see that something’s wrong. That’s why they act out, because they see the house is burning down, and they’re screaming for help. That was you.”— Meg Shaffer

“I have found the best way to deal with a toxic person is to not respond in any other way than monotone voice and a businesslike manner.” ― Jen Grice

“Let’s get out of the habit of telling people that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister. Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you.” – Bynnada

“The concrete can’t stop the separation of rotor from plane, the separation of father from daughter. There are crashes and then the walking away, the bleeding, and the shaky ride back.”— Tania Runyan

It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.

“You create more space in your life when you turn your excess baggage to garbage.” ― Chinonye J. Chidolue

“If you attach to the negative behavior of others, it brings you down to their level.” – Guru Singh

“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” – Leo Tolstoy

“There is healing in telling. There is healing in exposing abuse. There is healing in being truthful. There is healing in knowing you are not to blame. There is healing in standing up for yourself. There is healing in setting boundaries. There is healing in self-love. Hold onto hope that you will recover.”— Dana Arcuri

“Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself.” – Hussein Nishah

“If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, then there is really no hope for you to have a good relationship. That is another myth that we have to throw off so that we can get into what I call Reality.” – Gary Chapman

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” – Deborah Reber

“Just because they are your family doesn’t mean that they know what’s best for you or your life.” –Samuel Zulu

“It’s perplexing how family members claim their undying love for us. They can say whatever they choose, but their actions and behaviors don’t match their words. There is an imbalance in the relationships with distinct discrepancies, especially in who overpowers the scapegoat.”— Dana Arcuri

“Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated.” — Steve Maraboli

“My friend, you are not alone. No matter what you’ve suffered, the abuse was not your fault. You didn’t cause someone to hurt you. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult. Let that sink in. It’s not your fault.” — Dana Arcuri

“Don’t let toxic people infect you with the fear of giving and receiving one of the most powerful forces in this world… LOVE!”― Yvonne Pierre

“Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.” –Kimber Waul

“Her father is a burden she shouldn’t have to carry, but she does. He had made her feel unsafe in the world when his one job was to make her feel protected.”— Krystalle Bianca

“I may be the black sheep of the family, but at least I am me and not a fictitious white sheep I am not.” –Samuel Zulu

“When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.” – Steve Maraboli

“Insanity runs in my family. It practically gallops.” –Cary Grant

“Family or not I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.”— Morgan Sharee

“It always amazes me how swiftly problems can be solved, once you start cutting things off people.” – Joe Abercrombie

“Never venture near the toxic family war zone without your security detail of angels, spirit guides, and ancestors by your side.”— Anthon St. Maarten

“A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.” – Sherrie Campbell

“If a negative viewer looks at you with an ugly fiendish eye, find a way and pluck off his eyes, or better still, protect your good image.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson

“An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.” —Goi Nasu

“If it’s hurting you more than it’s healing you, love yourself enough to let it go.”— Sherrie Campbell

‘’People who try to bring you down every day aren’t important in your life, so you better treat their opinions as such.” –Terry Mark

“Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented.” — Sherrie Campbell

“It’s amazing how quickly things can turn around when you remove toxic people from your life.” — Robert Tew

“How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others.”— Anthon St. Maarten

“Family or not, I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.” – Morgan Sharee

“As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy – and they take a lot of each. Toxic people create unnecessary complexity, strife, and, worst of all, stress.” — Travis Bradberry

“Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part, changing behavior.” – David W. Earle

“It’s okay to cut ties with toxic friends and family; you’ve got to prioritize your own well-being.” – Brenden Dilley

“If the family you chose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.” – Anthon St. Maarten

“Weddings are never about the bride and groom. Weddings are public platforms for dysfunctional families.” – Lisa Kleypas

“I explain to my patients that abused children often find it hard to disentangle themselves from their dysfunctional families, whereas children grow away from good, loving parents with far less conflict. After all, isn’t that the task of a good parent, to enable the child to leave home?”— Irvin Yalom

“Families are like fudge – mostly sweet with a few nuts.” – Les Dawson

“A family can be the bane of one’s existence. A family can also be most of the meaning of one’s existence. I don’t know whether my family is bane or meaning, but they have surely gone away and left a large hole in my heart.”— Keri Hulme

“Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life, you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go, so you can grow.” – DLQ

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Fake Family Sayings

Toxic family members will try to control your life and make decisions for you, even if it’s not what’s best for you.

The hardest part about walking away from a toxic family member is the guilt that comes with it.

You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic family members. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry, selfish, and unforgiving. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of you.

Toxic family members can drain you emotionally and make you doubt your own worth.

Fake family members will try to make you feel guilty for setting boundaries and prioritizing your well-being.

Toxic people condition you to believe that the problem isn’t the abuse itself, but instead your reactions to the abuse.

Blood may be thicker than water, but sometimes, water is all you need to survive.

You don’t have to leave your whole family in the past, but just those who don’t deserve a place in your future.

Fake family members will act as if they care, but their actions will always reveal their true intentions.

Life is short. Don’t waste it on negative people.

You were being lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trusting issues, that’s lessons learned.

Some family members will only love you if you fit into their definition of ‘normal’. Don’t let them define who you are.

It’s okay to cut toxic family members out of your life. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind.

Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.

Fake family members will always put their interests above yours, even if it means hurting you in the process.

Some family members are like two-faced snakes, they’ll pretend to love you to your face and then stab you in the back.

Toxic family members will smile to your face and then gossip about you behind your back.

Sometimes the poison stems from the family and the only antidote is to remove yourself from it.

Surrounding yourself with negative people will only block your way forward. So take those hard decisions and always choose you.

A toxic family member can be worse than a poison in your life.

Toxic family members will always find a way to bring you down. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you.

Fake family members will smile in your face and then spread lies about you behind your back.

It’s better to have a small, supportive family than a large, toxic one full of fake people.

You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they’re allowed to treat you.

When toxic people can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you.

Families are homes built on a foundation of trust and love. A toxic family can never be home because the foundation doesn’t exist.

A good family will see your boundaries and move around them, a toxic family won’t even realize they’re there.

Biology shouldn’t be destiny.

It’s hard to trust anyone when even your own family can be two-faced and fake.

Toxic people are like cancer, they will eat away at you until there’s nothing left.

Maturity is understanding when and how to draw boundaries with toxic family members.

Some family members will only reach out when they need something, and then disappear when you need them.

Just because you’re related to someone doesn’t mean you have to tolerate their toxic behavior.

No matter how much you want people to be there for you, some are just not cut out for it.

A toxic family member can make you feel like you’re the problem when in reality, it’s their toxic behavior that’s causing the issues.

Cutting toxic people off doesn’t make you a bad person, selfish, or weak. Cutting toxic people off means you value your integrity over what other people think about you.

So that is it for our list of Toxic Family Quotes and Fake Family Sayings. We hope you found the perfect one!